Planning our backyard wedding
Hey friends, Alexandria here with a big update, Palmer and I are getting married this Fall!
When it came to wedding planning, I should fill you in on a little secret... Growing up, I was not the type of girl that dreamed of what her future wedding would look like, so when it came time to plan our upcoming nuptials, we started with a blank slate, which I actually think worked to our benefit. Because neither Palmer or I had any expectations other than making commitments to each other on the big day, we had the opportunity to really build the perfect wedding plan for us.
We kicked-off the wedding planning by listing out what we definitely wanted to experience on our wedding day, what we were neutral about and what we definitely did not want to be a part of our wedding day. Through this initial brainstorm we were able to get a pulse on where we each stood with our expectations, see where our visions aligned and where we might need to find some common ground.
One discussion Palmer and I had after we built our wedding plans surrounded whether or not we would regret foregoing the large, more traditional, wedding, with it being one of the only times that you really get to invite everyone you know and love to one party. After some discussion we realized that the regret of not doing our wedding our way would be a greater regret then any potential regret from foregoing the traditional route. We haven’t had our wedding day yet, and we are still knee deep in planning but we are already so happy with our decision to make our wedding exactly how we want it.
Wedding planning tips
1- Discuss wedding expectations at the very beginning so you can begin to build your wedding vision as a couple
2- Don’t be afraid to veer off the traditional route. It is your wedding, you can celebrate it any way you want, so don’t be afraid to be creative!
3- Be realistic. There is absolutely no reason to stretch your time and money beyond what you’re comfortable with, especially for items that may not even be important to you
4- Focus on what you as a couple want for your wedding day, not everyone else (everyone has an opinion on what a wedding should look like, and frankly that does not matter)!
5- Enjoy the journey! They say your wedding day is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life, why not make the planning process happy too?
Hope this was helpful for anyone that might be in the midst of some wedding planning of their own, I would love to hear what wedding planning advice you have to share in the comments section below!
x, Alexandria
